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trying to work things out
Okay, so I just talked to Sandra, and I think that we're going to try to work things out.

Because really, our difficulty lies on two things : two things that I am working on anyway, but which she's going to get me in the right direction for getting there in a more reasonable way.

The two : being more grounded in yiddishkeit and having a stable salary.

The former involves doing some learning. The latter involves getting a teaching certificate. Both are things I would want to do. There was just some misunderstanding on my behalf. She does accept me for who I am. But she wants me to be responsible! That's not like, say, asking me to tap dance on the roof. My grandmother used to say that all the time. "It's not like your parents are asking you to dance on the roof or something..." I miss her.

feeling: : hopeful hopeful
la musique: : Vida Blue - Most Events Aren't Planned

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stridentapple From: stridentapple Date: le 27 janvier 2003 17:52 (UTC) (Lien)
hope everything works out :)
marlowe1 From: marlowe1 Date: le 27 janvier 2003 17:58 (UTC) (Lien)

surly counterpoint

Look - umm - this one is hard to say but you're girlfriend is being condescending.

That could be a good thing. It could be a bad thing. If your earning potential is a factor I'd think seriously about this relationship - especially if you are going to try to go with the three dates and you're married plan.

Basically - go to the shul, look around. Look at the women with the fur coats. Listen to them speak. Can you honestly say that you want to wake up to that 30 years from today? Or can you say that she won't become that?

Besides your earning potential - what's her earning potential. Is she planning on working or is she planning on sitting back and letting you make the bucks? Does she have ambitions beyond marriage and motherhood? Granted, some guys only want that out of their women. I'd personally rather get raped by poodles than marry a woman like that (might not have been one of my grandmother's quaint sayings - but if she thought of it first she would have used it)

I know - I know - different customs, different traditions. Don't let my cynical outlook spoil your hopefulness - unless of course your hopefulness is false and then run. Run away fast!
gordond From: gordond Date: le 28 janvier 2003 04:21 (UTC) (Lien)

Re: surly counterpoint

oh, but she has got quite the earning potential. It's a given at this point that unless I become a best-selling author, she will no doubtedly be earning three to four times as much as I would be.

and she's as anti-fur coat wearing as I am. :)
marlowe1 From: marlowe1 Date: le 28 janvier 2003 10:32 (UTC) (Lien)

Re: surly counterpoint

Then make sure to use the term "house husband" in casual conversation as much as possible. Talk about how much you like kids, how much you like watching kids - then learn how to cook and iron. Chances are you'll be able to get out of working again with a sugar mama.

Well -that's my ambition as a writer.
gordond From: gordond Date: le 28 janvier 2003 12:08 (UTC) (Lien)

surely count her poinsetta

Heh. I already know how to cook and iron, but if this works out, there's no way she'll just be okay with me being a house husband. This much I know to be true.

But heck, I'll get to be a teacher. Contribute to the future, or what not.
batshua From: batshua Date: le 28 janvier 2003 04:53 (UTC) (Lien)
I hope it all works out. Just think carefully about this. It's a big choice.
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