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March Proposal?
So I was talking to Sandra last night on the phone, and she let it known that if all was well and I still hadn't proposed to her sometime in March.... she was going to do it. Propose. I guess my telling her about one person on the PVP forum who proposed to her boyfriend might have been an inspiration. But that was after dating for five years.

Granted, we of the Observant Jewish faith don't date that long. Less than a year. Heck I was thinking sometime around June if things were going well. But I was also thinking to play it by ear so to speak.

She tells me that the only way to avoid being proposed to is by "beating her to the punch" so to speak.

Things are going well, though. She acknowledged the whole back and forth thing. Her way of expressing her uncertainty in the relationship. Alas, it has been said that the only time she will stop with the uncertainty will be when she knows we would be good together. And that would be shortly before she would propose. So there is a window of time before her thinking we're definitely good and proposal.

Of course, I would also have to think that we're definitely good to propose. Or to accept a proposal.

In news unrelated to Sandra, I have spent the day looking through the Writer's Market and have come up with some ideas for magazines to send stories to. How many, if any, would accept is an entirely different matter.

feeling: : accomplished accomplished
la musique: : Chobits - Let Me Be With You

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gordond From: gordond Date: le 23 décembre 2002 14:32 (UTC) (Lien)
Now, now.... there's no certainty we'll even still be together in three months. We're funny, the more observant Jews. :)
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gordond From: gordond Date: le 23 décembre 2002 14:55 (UTC) (Lien)
yay!! thanks! :)

It helps that we've been talking a lot. We've managed about 55 hours in one month. Goodness.
marlowe1 From: marlowe1 Date: le 02 janvier 2003 10:47 (UTC) (Lien)

It happens in observant Judaism as well

One the problems I've noticed is this pressure to get engaged after only knowing each other for a very short time. I can see it if you know someone for years and then start dating and realize that hey, it will work out. I've also seen quickie marriages followed by quickie divorces in the observant Jewish community.

While dating for more than 2 years is a bit ridiculous, because by that time you should know if it's forever or just a fling - the meet, get engaged, get married in 6 months or less system is equally unworkable.

Of course - I found it funny when my friend did that and got divorced a year later - well funny in that tragic sort of way - just because he really doesn't follow any of the observance into which he'd been raised. But somehow the engagement after a month was something that he would follow.
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